One thing I am realizing over the years is that while it might seem so, the best “social people” don’t actually have this built into their mind, they have some external system for capturing facts like the OP, and do the work to maintain it.
Whether that is writing the name of the person you met at dinner into your diary when you get home (including info like spouse/children), or calendar invites for birthdays of everyone you know, or whatever.
Reading “How to win friends and influence people” gives the same broad advice.
As you say, it’s a lot of work (though it might look effortless to interlocutors). But the flip-side of that observation is that anyone can get better by just using these practices. (Of course, social people are by definition more interested in this sort of study.)
Obsidian seems to be a pretty powerful tool honestly a bit intimidated by it. I am trying to understand how important a relationship manager tool would be in both the professional and personal context.
https://forms.gle/SxRjGV73L1fGt2df7 if you're interested in adding your input.
So far many people are interested in having this solved for them but the time-to-value is too much overhead having to capture all the data and the importing of contacts from other places seems to be a real struggle.
This looks like an interesting premise, but it's super sketch web design to ask for an email address with absolutely no explanation of how your service works.
Even if I was totally willing to give my email address to you - I'd still really like more of an explanation on how your service works before I invest any time into using it.
You could probably get a lot more positive feedback on this service by adding an explanation on how it works at a high level and what I am to expect by using it.
My primary goal now is to be able to spend as much time with my loved ones as possible, because that is time that has no price. And when I say "time", I don't just mean passively sitting there with them; I mean actually 100% mentally engaged and enjoying their company and presence.
I used to think in my early 20s that if I worked really hard and lived that SV grind lifestyle, that I would magically make a lot of money and life would be easy.
In fact, what ended up happening was reality - I lost a loved one midway through my 20s, and it altered my perception of just what is actually important vs. what is noise.
Now I just want to make sure I spend just enough time to keep doing well at work, and use everything else in the tank for the really important things.
This becomes even more important once you have children. Important and in many ways difficult, especially if you did not get that kind of attention from your parents when you was a child.
I’m sorry but I very much disagree. Each hop netted me much better work-life balance and much higher pay, and actually broadened my horizons and whag I bring to the table because I have experienced a wide array of corporate cultures and team styles.
What DOESN’T do wonders for your
career is thinking/hoping/praying that sticking it out at a subpar company year after year will magically bring you those same benefits, if it’s not already happening and you’ve already asked politely for it to be resolved.
I’m hoping all of these pent up “forced” WFH complainers can go back into an office, personally.
One of the biggest stressors in my working life is that all of that time spent in an office with coworkers is time NOT spent with my “actual” family that I live and breathe for. All the time wasted commuting, all the energy Ive lost trying to fit into extroverted work cultures only to return to my family drained and unable to appreciate them - Ive regained that by being enabled to work from home.
Once people who cleary dont appreciate WFH can go back into their physical office spaces and get back to socializing as a first priority, there will be more opportunities for people lile me who genuinely appreciate WFH to be had.
No, you are absolutely right. It is extremely naive to think actors/celebrities (whose million dollar movie contracts, photo endorsements and ad placements, and other visual body marketing media, depend on their physical appearance being top 1%) are doing this without drugs.
Your observation about Hugh Jackman is on point. If you need more evidence, look at the difference between The Rock (a pro wrestler and admitted user) between 1993-2003 vs. now. In 2021, he’s at least 20 years older, and yet his latest action movie appearances have him at a lower body fat, and higher muscle mass % per height than when he was 20 years younger? Come on, that’s not how biology works.
If you go to any serious website or forum where actual steroid users converse, none of this is shocking news. Drugs make for fast body transformations, and the results revert back to natural limits once you stop the drugs (useful for an actor preparing for a movie/show/appearance, who then does not care about that look once it’s finished).
Well, taking steroids is a necessary but not sufficient condition for those kinds of body transformations. You still need a good diet and exercise regime (to a normal person who isn’t into fitness at all, even that is very hard), and because of the enhanced recovery you are probably exercising much more than without steroids.
