Maid of Honor Says Bride Expects Her to Spend ‘Thousands’ to Attend Wedding Abroad and Stay at Campsite in Remote Area 

A maid-of-honor has confessed to feeling “disappointed” by her friend’s “thoughtless” wedding plans.

On March 11, she penned a lengthy post on Mumsnet, explaining that they became close after meeting when she visited the country that the bride lives in. Their friendship continued when she returned to her home in the U.K., but they’ve only seen each other in person when she visits her friend’s country.

The woman said she was “ecstatic” when her friend asked her to be maid-of-honor despite the distance between them. She immediately agreed, while aware of the expense, but several other issues have since upset her. 

“She’s picked her wedding date at the highest of peak season, so flights and accommodations are double the normal costs,” the mumsnet user said of her friend. 

She complained the wedding clashes with her “important birthday,” while claiming she doesn’t mind celebrating it on another day.

However, her friend hasn’t apologized for the date, which made her question if she remembers that it’s her birthday.

The woman said she will have to rent a car because the wedding is in a “very remote area” and spend over $200 per night at a hotel miles away from the venue unless she stays at a nearby campsite recommended by the bride. 

“Nothing against camping, but a) I am coming from abroad, I won’t have camping gear with me, nor want to live off a car for 5 days, b) it’s a wedding, I want to be able to sleep well and get ready properly? I honestly might have audibly gasped when she suggested I sleep in a tent because I was shocked that was even a solution in her mind," she said.

“Obviously will go for one of the expensive Airbnb nearby, but am I wrong to be a bit miffed?” she asked.

The woman said she doesn’t “expect any kind of special treatment,” but her friend’s wedding plans have left her feeling “disappointed.”

She was surprised that her friend didn’t offer for her to stay at her house for a few days before or after the wedding and seemed to show “no consideration” toward her.

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Several commenters advised the woman to decline the invite to the wedding regardless of having already accepted the role as maid of honor.

“I think this wedding is sounding great for the bride, but their expectations of guests paying vast amounts for the privilege of seeing them wed is unfair,” one person wrote. “Over a week's annual leave, costly, remote need to sort out hire car, accommodation, pay for events during the week. Crikes. I'd be saying big apologies, but I can't do this.”

Another chimed in, saying, “Why don't you ask her if you can stay with them before the wedding, due to cost? I'd have to decline if it was costing me that much and there was no wiggle room at all for accommodation.

“It definitely seems a bit thoughtless to not consider you'll be coming from another country and footing the entire bill by yourself. Someone else's wedding shouldn't bankrupt you!” they added.

“I just wouldn't go - I don't think she's been unreasonable exactly in planning the wedding she wants, but she should understand that means some people can't make it,” a third said.