Man Says His Girlfriend Wants Him to Get Rid of Clown Figurines Because They Are ‘Disturbing.’ He Told Her to ‘Suck It Up’

A man is in a major disagreement with his girlfriend over clown figurines.

The 26-year-old detailed his experience on the popular Reddit forum “Am I the A------” on Friday, March 7, sharing that he loves clowns and owns a number of clown figurines.

“I have several porcelain clowns displayed around my house on walls, hung from the ceiling on little swings, and on shelves. I adore these weird little creatures,” he explained.

He also said that his 24-year-old girlfriend — who does not live with him — has known about this “since we started dating” and has never seemed to have a problem with it. However, the Redditor noted things took a turn when he recently bought “2 Venetian masks from the thrift store.”

“She HATES them. She said they’re creepy and give her ‘bad vibes,’ “ he wrote, adding that he told her he would take the masks down when she stays over, which she initially told him would be “fine.” 

Several days later, however, his girlfriend told him that “we needed to talk.”

He continued: “She told me that she’s sick of seeing my weird decorations and clown toys everywhere. That they’re ugly and creep her out. I asked her where this was all coming from because she has NEVER MENTIONED MY CLOWNS BEFORE and she said me ‘bringing those ugly f------ masks into our home was her last straw.’ “

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He reiterated that he would take the masks down when she came over, accused her of being “controlling” and said, “This isn’t OUR home. It’s MY apartment.”

He said his girlfriend then replied, “Either get rid of some of them or [we’re] done.” He told her to “suck it up” while she’s at his place, and if she can’t then he’ll start staying over at her place instead.

The man said his girlfriend “didn’t like that answer” and “called me a child before leaving.” He shared that he has since texted and apologized, but “she hasn’t responded to me.”

“Am I the a------ for telling her to ‘suck it up’ about my clown figurines?” he concluded.

The majority of commenters agreed that his feelings were valid, but they also suggested that the incident raises questions about the long-term compatibility with his partner.

“NTA [not the a------],” wrote one person. “As someone who isn’t into clowns but loves Venetian masks, I can understand being creeped out by some of them. However, her turning [...] on your entire interest for clowns that you’ve had your whole relationship makes her TA [the a------]. Also, if she’s giving you ultimatums over how you decorate your own space based on your own interests, she’s not the one. There will be someone who will appreciate your collection, if not add to it themselves.”

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“NTA. You're just incompatible. You're better off breaking up and finding someone who thinks your clowns are cute,” agreed another commenter.

Another person noted that the he is entitled to decorate his home however he likes, but also said he should be aware that doing so might genuinely make his home feel uninviting to others.

“If clowns are your passion then go for it and find that someone who’s into them as much as you, but it might also help to get comfortable with the idea that many people only tolerate a certain amount of clowns around them [at] any given time and from a social standpoint it might be easier to tone it down or restrict the collection to a special room or something, if you want to create an inviting space for a variety of people,” the Redditor wrote.