Olivia Plath Reflects on 'Extremely Problematic' Marriage to Ethan Plath on Anniversary of Their Divorce

Olivia Plath is looking back on her marriage to Ethan Plath.

In a lengthy Instagram post on Monday, March 24, the reality star offered a look into what allegedly went on "behind closed doors" while she was married to her now-ex-husband.

Two years after she said she decided to start the process of filing for divorce, Olivia thanked her fans for their “love and encouragement.”

“It truly was the best decision for me and I have received countless messages from other women saying that watching me walk away and choose better for myself gave them the courage to leave their situation,” she wrote. “I am very touched. If that is you, know that you are joined in spirit by the countless other women who also discovered their worth, fought for it and came out on the other side.”

“I’d also like to take a moment to highlight the internal misogyny that is so deeply ingrained in our societal veins,” she continued. “Many people assume that because my relationship was on TV, they know all of the details of what happened even behind closed doors when cameras were not around."

"They can’t fathom that maybe systems, networks or individuals would hide extremely problematic behavior so that they aren’t cancelled. They also can’t fathom that maybe I didn’t or don’t have the power or legal clearance to expose or even tell the unfiltered truth about what *I* experienced, unfortunately. 🤐” she added.

Olivia officially filed for divorce in February 2023, a year after she and Ethan separated. The entirety of their five-year marriage — and the aftermath of their split — has been documented on TLC’s Welcome to Plathville.

Olivia revealed that she hasn’t gone into detail about her marriage because she is “figuring out” the restrictions of a non-disclosure agreement while also “still unpacking and finding terminology for what I experienced.”

“Another reason is because of the nasty messages from fans of the family who believe I would make up allegations and lie about DV [domestic violence],” she added. “I’ve been called every name under the sun, told that I should k*ll myself, that it’s just like a woman to try to destroy a man’s reputation, etc.”

PEOPLE has reached out to TLC and a representative for Ethan for comment.

Olivia went on to say that it is “blatantly not OK to be a bully,” especially when it might discourage people from speaking out about their experiences.

“One thing I’ve learned: it doesn’t matter what you go through as a woman, you will never be a good enough victim to the public,” Olivia shared. “Another thing I’ve learned: women speaking up about abuse or DV doesn’t ruin a man’s reputation. If that were true, we wouldn’t have a convicted felon for president. Women don’t owe abusive behavior or men silence to protect them from scrutiny, accountability or uncomfortability.”

Later, Olivia wrote that “I don’t need to be a victim,” and insisted that was not the intention of her post. Rather, she said she hoped to show other women that they are not alone.

“Deconstructing patriarchy has shown me how many women are silenced or stay in unhealthy environments because they think they don't deserve better. They won't find better. He might become better,” she explained. “Their identity has been wrapped up in being submissive, agreeable, forgiving, etc. My DMs have confirmed this too 😞.”

“20 year old me didn't know my worth,” she admitted. “She overstayed because she was scared of being told she didn't try hard enough. She thought she could convince someone to love and choose her but that was always going to be futile and make her insecure, emotionally unstable and have controlling tendencies.”

“26 year old me knows her worth,” Olivia then affirmed. “She is able to discern what her role is in a relationship, what's a conflict that's able to be resolved between two people willing to grow and what's worth walking away from. She knows now that when someone doesn't choose her, she's better off choosing herself and walking away instead of trying to change or control the situation.”

“And I want the same thing for every other woman,” the post concluded. “There is obviously a lot to say on this subject, and many people are far more qualified to share than I am. There can also be gray areas in every situation is different. All I can share is my experience, whenever and however, it feels right for me or that I am allowed.”

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