Woman Says She Feels ‘Rejected’ After Her Boyfriend of 5 Months Didn’t Want to Spend the Night with Her

Is he just not that into her?

A woman wrote on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet that she's been dating a man for about five months, but during a recent get-together, her boyfriend opted not to spend the night with her.

According to the woman, she and the man are both single parents and have had the exclusivity talk, but they often find it hard to schedule times to see each other.

"It can be tricky getting our schedules to align due to his work and me not having regular childcare (because my children have special education needs), but we manage to get together for a day/evening during the week at least once (sometimes twice) for a handful of hours," she explained.

So, when their schedules recently "aligned" so that they both had "a child-free night," the woman wrote that she and her boyfriend "made plans to go out for dinner and then back to his [place]."

And because both didn't have to be responsible for their children, the woman suggested that they could spend the night with each other, but her boyfriend instead suggested, "Let's do a few hours."

Explaining that she was left with "instant disappointment," the woman continued, "I asked was there a reason he didn't want to spend the night together, and he said he was just being considerate of my [mother] having [my kids for the night]."

The man also joked that he didn't want to hear the woman snore, she further explained, highlighting, however, that she does no such thing while sleeping.

Continuing to question her boyfriend's decision, the woman wrote, "Wouldn't you be jumping at the chance to spend the whole night with somebody you say you're falling in love with?"

"I'm feeling a bit rejected. I have ADHD and do tend to feel rejection-sensitive dysphoria, so I can't always be sure that I'm not just being sensitive," she added.

In an update, the woman further detailed that she had been to her boyfriend's house before and they "already have a sexual relationship."

"It isn't going to be the first time we do the deed (just the first night we would be able to spend together in full)," she said.

In the comments section, many backed the woman, telling her that she was not being unreasonable.

"You’re not being too sensitive, this isn’t a good sign," one person wrote. "I think anyone would be concerned about why, given the rare opportunity, he doesn’t want you to spend the night."

They then asked: "Is there something he isn’t telling you? Have you seen his house/bedroom? Is his bathroom a disgrace? I think this needs a further conversation."

In response, the woman stated, "He's definitely not seeing anybody else, at least I'm as sure as I can be that he isn't. He doesn't get much child free time when he isn't working himself."

"Looking at the relationship and his communication/actions (other than this) as a whole really don't give me that impression," she continued. "For example, I was happy to keep things casual to begin with, but he made it clear he was looking for commitment, told me he had feelings first, etc."