Woman's Husband Is Upset After She Refuses to Attend His School Musical Because He Left Their Daughter's Show Early

• A mom on Reddit says that her husband left their daughter's school musical early because he was "hungry and tired," despite there only being 35 minutes left in the show
• He took their two sons with him, leaving the mom and daughter upset
• Now he wants his wife to attend another musical at the school where he teaches and is mad she's refusing to do so

A frustrated mom says that she and her husband are battling over his decision to leave their daughter's school musical early.

She wrote on the popular "Am I The A------?" Reddit forum that her 15-year-old daughter was in her school's musical, and she was there for every step of the process. There were four months of rehearsals. "She performed a total of four times — once for parent night and three different showings from the weekend. I have gone to all of the rehearsals, pick ups from practice and had volunteered to work during the intermission shifts and pre-shows for the musical boosters group. I only asked that her father and two brothers attend one show," the 40-something mother said.

During intermission, she said that her husband said that he wasn't feeling great, was hungry and tired and wanted to go home. "I told him that the second act was only about 35 minutes and would be short and I thought it would be nice for everyone to stay to show support for our daughter. He decided to leave anyway and took our sons with him. I was beyond upset, and we had had an argument about it," she added, noting that when the play was over and everyone's families were there to greet the kids, it was just her there to support her kid, which was the hardest part for her to take.

The woman continued, "Fast forward to this weekend and my husband asked if we all wanted to go see the musical at the school where he teaches. I said I didn’t want to go and sit through someone else’s whole musical when he had not bothered to sit through his own daughter's. He told me that I’m wrong for my opinion and that I was being hateful."

When she refused, he asked his daughter to go with him, but he said he can only go to the matinee on Sunday, when his daughter has her voice lessons, because he "didn't want to drive at night." Now he's mad at her, saying that she's being "unreasonable."

The OP added that her daughter was indeed upset when her father left her play early.

"She was really hurt and upset. Especially since her younger brother wanted to stay and see the end of the show. She wants a closer relationship with her dad and doesn’t want to say something to make him upset, but she sees him not making the same effort to be at her events that other dads do. I want their relationship to be good," the woman said, noting that she just can't wrap her head around his "determination" to go see his students when he wasn't there for his own kid.

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In the forum, people came to the woman's defense, saying that it was most definitely her husband who was being unreasonable.

Someone said, "Your husband is not only destroying his relationship with his daughter now, but he is defining the way she sees love and how little she will value herself in relationships that she has with men when she is older. He's shown her how little she means to him and will for the rest of her life feel like she isn't worthy. Your husband is a horrible father to your daughter."

Another commenter wrote, "What kind of an idiot are you married to?... Sorry, OP. You had children with a child."

The distraught mom later updated the post, writing, "I appreciate the suggestions and comments. This behavior from my husband has been escalating the past few years, and I suppose I wanted to have some validation that I wasn’t overreacting. I also understand that this reflects more than just one situation and shows how fractured the relationship is between my husband myself and my kids. I’ve been trying to get us into the family therapy for a few years now without success and now I suppose I have to think about what I want for my future and my kids' future."