> I did read your comment as a touch condescending, just FYI.
Sigh, yeah, I need to watch that. Good of you to let me know.
My take on the not-listening thing -- of course I'm not Aron -- is that if you've heard a faction hector you a lot, and you don't think they're listening to you except maybe to match some of your words into their standard bingo cards, then it's natural to tune someone out the moment they say one of that faction's shibboleths. From this POV, telling the speaker how their rhetoric failed is actually reaching out to them a little. That's not the POV I aspire to: I try to consider more words that piss me off than I really feel like, because I meta-want to be less biased. Sometimes I do, and sometimes they even get through.
Re: social psychology, I'm just starting on Haidt's The Righteous Mind in hopes of learning some basics.
(Since many more people might read this, I guess I want to make it completely clear that I didn't say what brand of words piss me off.)
>My take on the not-listening thing -- of course I'm not Aron -- is that if you've heard a faction hector you a lot, and you don't think they're listening to you except maybe to match some of your words into their standard bingo cards, then it's natural to tune someone out the moment they say one of that faction's shibboleths.
Ah - this is very good point, thanks for following up on this!
Sigh, yeah, I need to watch that. Good of you to let me know.
My take on the not-listening thing -- of course I'm not Aron -- is that if you've heard a faction hector you a lot, and you don't think they're listening to you except maybe to match some of your words into their standard bingo cards, then it's natural to tune someone out the moment they say one of that faction's shibboleths. From this POV, telling the speaker how their rhetoric failed is actually reaching out to them a little. That's not the POV I aspire to: I try to consider more words that piss me off than I really feel like, because I meta-want to be less biased. Sometimes I do, and sometimes they even get through.
Re: social psychology, I'm just starting on Haidt's The Righteous Mind in hopes of learning some basics.
(Since many more people might read this, I guess I want to make it completely clear that I didn't say what brand of words piss me off.)