“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” - Kurt Vonnegut Jr.
I read comments like yours - "I'm not really a bad person, it was just a prank, Bro!" from time to time and I think it betrays a real lack of understanding on how human interaction works.
It is one thing to make a joke about fat people in some private setting among friends who know you and will take your words ironically. But to make the same joke in a public sub that was explicitly set up to ridicule fat people conveys a very different meaning. It means that you condone the sentiment behind the sub and agree with those users (perhaps a minority perhaps everyone else on there except you, who knows?) that do harbor malice towards others. By joining in you give such people strength and encouragement.
Reddit was right to ban those subs. You were wrong to participate.
(This doesn't make you a bad person in general, we all make mistakes.)
If you are chatting among friends in real life they can see your body language and hear your tone of voice. If someone takes offense you can immediately back-peddle.
Submitting a comment to a webpage (either public or protected) is more like writing graffiti on a public wall. Nobody knows or cares what your intentions were.
I see it more like standing in a corner with your friends talking about whatever (in this case a specific topic). Sure, someone can walk by, overhear the conversation and be offended. But to call that making public comments in some form is missing the point of the distinction between public and private.
I think the argument is that it's a space that is accessible by everyone without any sort of gatekeeping, that makes it a public space. Whereas a forum such as somethingawful would be considered more private as there is a subscription fee for membership.
To me the issue isn't the lack of literal gatekeeping, its the intended audience. If I'm having a conversation in public with my friends, I still have a reasonable expectation that my conversation is "private" as long as I make an effort to keep it among those in my group. That someone could walk by, eavesdrop and overhear something objectionable doesn't meaningfully alter this dynamic. I see subreddits as similar to this. The fact that there is a specific URL that indicates its topic is enough gatekeeping to warrant the conversations as "private", in terms of who is the expected target of the conversation. In the case of fatpeoplehate, the insulation of the content of the sub makes it reasonable to expect that consumers of the content will be "in on the joke". Objecting to the content because its in a "public space" and therefore not appropriate for public consumption doesn't make sense.
I think the "fun" comes from the sport of seeing how far they can go in provoking other people by taking extreme behaviors and speaking about them in a casual, normalizing tone.
Which, needless to say, is childish, wasteful of everyone's time on account of its disingenuousness, and doesn't reflect well on one's personal character or maturity.
>Thinking black people are inferior is a political view.
I disagree. Thinking that trickle-down economics is a solution to poverty is a political view. Outright judgement of entire populations on illogical and untenable grounds is simply racism.
I have taken the mindset of rejecting these mindsets wholesale - I won't give credence to racists anymore. It is a garbage, untenable, unarguable viewpoint, and those that are within it have simply been failed by the system. It makes life much simpler :)
> Thinking black people are inferior is a political view.
No, that's not a political view. That's plain old racism. Politics has to do with money and power. Thinking black people are inferior is white supremacy. Don't conflate that reasonable positions taken in politics.
I don't think it makes sense to deny that it's both. One can hold abhorrent political views -- that doesn't make them not political. What were the Nazis if not a political movement based on white supremacy?
Playing night elf Druids in computer games doesn't hurt others. Your participation on the forums did. You like hurting people for fun? How do you sleep at night?
In some multiplayer games just playing them hurts other people up to the point where they experience something very similar to a mental breakdown, all because you're on their team and you're performing poorly.
It all comes down to the emotion management. My countrymen - and by extension me - have been called thieves and equated to animals countless times. My race has been blamed for all the evils in the world. Yet, I don't care - none of this has any potential to hurt me, it's just words on the internet and I'd rather follow the famous mantra of Tyler The Creator than pretend I'm being hurt somehow.
Well... I think you can have "fun" without it being at anyone's direct and unwilling expense for reasons beyond their control.
That aside, even if most of the users "weren't taking it seriously" it creates the kind of environment where being hateful is tolerated and celebrated... not exactly the kind of community anyone should want to encourage or participate in.
My experience with online communities is that while you don't have to have fun at other people's expense, it's a large subset of what people like to do. For better or for worse a lot of people like to say or do things that push boundaries. Sometimes it's actual hate and sometimes it's not. This kind of behavior goes way back with humanity in general. Trickster heroes have existed in mythos across all cultures and while they do things that are at the expense of others, rarely is it out of malice.
For those who can't watch: A female streamer is playing PUBG when she is "downed" by other players. Said players then play the ISIS theme that has been played on ISIS execution videos over voice chat before shooting her character in the head. Are these players tolerating and celebrating ISIS or are they deliberately being offensive for humor? Or some other motivation?
For good reason people find this behavior objectionable, but at the same time I don't see how you're going to force people to stop doing things like this.
People drain swamps and other areas where stagnant water collects to deprive mosquitos of places to breed and grow and affect the population at large, not because they want to visit those places.
Please take some time to reflect and interpret other's comments charitably and arguing their strongest interpretation, not their weakest. It'll help you understand others better and make your own arguments stronger and contribute more productively.
That seems like a great analogy until I remember that we built DC on a drained swamp.
Again, their statement was that if it involved pain then it was unacceptable. I pointed out boxing, they mentioned concentual. I pointed out that the user consented when they visited the URL.
I mean, come on... The two big ones were coontown and fatpeoplehate. What the hell did they think was going to be there?
It's not the content of the subreddits alone, but they inevitably "leak", or actively encourage harassment of people on other subreddits. This is how they can be harmful even to people who never go to the banned subreddit.
Ridicule is not a healthy way to correct 'bad' behaviors. Even aside from the fact that I fundamentally disagree that people should feel bad for being obese - Aside from the typical externalities of excessive eating and sedentary lifestyle - your comment is baffling to me.
The social cost of the negative outcomes of ridicule directed at obese people - lifelong stunted self-confidence, eating disorders, depression, suicide, etc. - FAR outweigh the few cases where people like yourself might find this productive/helpful.
Do you really believe that ridicule is a reasonable way for society to deal with this (or any) issue?
>Do you really believe that ridicule is a reasonable way for society to deal with this (or any) issue?
Isn't that exactly what's going on with the backlash against hate groups? Like it or not, ridicule is an effective social tool for behavior modification.
"The nail that sticks up gets hammered down" works extremely effectively in many cultures. I'm not saying there's other downsides to using that tool, but it is extremely effective.
S.Korea & Japan are in the lowest three obesity rates for a reason. (Third being Italy)
It's not a hard thing to figure out, honestly.
I'll vigorously defend your right to express your opinion. That doesn't mean I have to agree with you and I may disagree loudly.
Aggressive social conformism is just everyone disagreeing with you, loudly. It's the kind of thing we should be doing to racists, etc.
I liked it in the beginning, but one time there was a post of a fat dude working out in the gym, and everyone was mocking him relentlessly. I posted "hold on, I thought we were making fun of fat people doing nothing about their condition, this guy is making an effort."
The response was downvotes and "nope, all fat people are human garbage and should be mocked."
Was done with the subreddit after that. It started as a activist subreddit challenging the "love your body" movement that was trying to propagate unhealthy fat acceptance, it ended as a hate subreddit. Shame.
