Yah, my fault for a poor choice of words. I wasn't saying "zero tolerance," as in judging people or asking them to censor their opinions around me. I just meant I make it totally clear that I personally don't let racist statements go unchallenged. There are people in my family who are very close to me but know full well that if they open a certain topic for discussion, they are committing to an hour long debate they probably weren't prepared for.

I find that the plain truth is that older generations in general don't really listen to young'uns anyway, so it's not a question of how to change them, but how to make it exceptionally clear to them what my stance is, because at least then they'll know that I can't be pressured to change. Once I've done that, I'm happy going on with life and never bringing it up again.