I think there should totally be a commonly agreed philosophy of developers being able to say:
"Here's my hobby project, that I write for my own satisfaction. I'm happy for others to use it, and to license it under my choice of open source license. I am not though, going to feel obliged to change anything about my work on it in response to demands, requests, ideas, advice, or pull requests - or even acknowledge or read any of those. This repo will continue to be my hobby project to accomplish my goals in my timeframes for my personal amusement. If you find it useful? Great! If you want something different? I hope you make it yourself and maybe share it to, or at least find what you are looking for somewhere else, good luck."
There's a fundamental difference between "scratching your own itch" and "becoming a software project manager and community leader". I'd much rather people who only ever want to do the first of those, don't feel the need to keep all their code hidden out of fear of being pushed into the second of those.
The crux of the biscuit is: If it entertains you, fine. Enjoy it. If it doesn't, then blow it out your ass. I do it to amuse myself. If I like it, I release it. If somebody else likes it, that's a bonus.
I wonder if Bandcamp or Soundcloud artists get driveby commenters saying things like "It needs more cowbell" or "Here, I recorded a string arrangement for the second chorus, please add it in and republish!"
"Here's my hobby project, that I write for my own satisfaction. I'm happy for others to use it, and to license it under my choice of open source license. I am not though, going to feel obliged to change anything about my work on it in response to demands, requests, ideas, advice, or pull requests - or even acknowledge or read any of those. This repo will continue to be my hobby project to accomplish my goals in my timeframes for my personal amusement. If you find it useful? Great! If you want something different? I hope you make it yourself and maybe share it to, or at least find what you are looking for somewhere else, good luck."
There's a fundamental difference between "scratching your own itch" and "becoming a software project manager and community leader". I'd much rather people who only ever want to do the first of those, don't feel the need to keep all their code hidden out of fear of being pushed into the second of those.