I appreciate your point but it’s important we (being people working in technology) never accept or justify this behaviour. If a job is too stressful, quit. There’s no justification for talented, well-paid technologists to stay in a job that triggers them and harm those around them.
I think we, collectively, should strive for avoiding making other people's life stressful.
Just by having a different role, title or label attached to you can be pretty stressful by itself, specially if you are out numbered and decision making is done by number of hands.
The majority not always get that. Also is so common to be exposed to other people's frustration when explaining things, or denying a request, balancing between letting someone shoot their own feet, explaining once again why that is not a good idea, or just restoring a backup later.
