I may be interpreting this incorrectly, but it appears that you're calling them lazy.

Whereas they're saying that spending time setting up AWS is complicated (for them) and not worth their own personal effort in comparison.

And I'm suggesting that spending money on a subscription fee for something that could be learned within a few hours is not worth it in comparison.

I'm not sure where you read the ad-hominem.

I didn’t downvote you but the issue is definitely your phrasing (“disgusting”).

It took me all of 3 seconds to fall in love with Tailscale, but I think I agree with your point. This is a place of knowledge and curiosity, so digging into stuff and setting it up yourself is definitely to be commended.

For me, I just want a solution that works and I simply don’t have the cycles to spend on this specific problem. Happy to outsource, nothing disgusting about that.