Is there not a middle ground here? I don't think this is a binary situation where a person has to have no care at all, or it is their full obsession with life.
Like, I don't care if you think my clothes are shit, and I don't keep up with the latest javascript flavor of the day. At the same time I don't want, at least the general public around me, thinking I'm some creepy hermit murderer so they don't rise up with torches and pitchforks either.
That’s what the comment you’re replying to is saying, you just used more words. You’re downstream from someone who asserted they are a hard 0 on the caring, which it sounds like you agree is… unlikely.
Like, I don't care if you think my clothes are shit, and I don't keep up with the latest javascript flavor of the day. At the same time I don't want, at least the general public around me, thinking I'm some creepy hermit murderer so they don't rise up with torches and pitchforks either.