Yeah that's another big one. I'd think the neurotypical person is more likely to think "We put the bucket there because Jane said so, I don't really care" while the autistic person might be more likely to demand an explanation for why it's being put there when there is a seemingly more useful spot from their perspective. To which they might get a response of "Because I said so" as Jane doesn't feel like having to explain and argue every detail to everyone.
Just putting the bucket in that spot is likely more productive than having a company wide debate on it's placement. There might not be any logical rules for it but it doesn't matter since it's placement is largely inconsequential.
Yeah. And in a lot of cases Jane might actually be open to a better placement! The average Jane just wants things to go smoothly.
But the autistic person might "demand" an answer or call the current placement "stupid" and actually just make an enemy out of Jane, and then everybody loses.
This is in many ways unfair to the autistic person, because they don't know the unwritten social rules of how to bring something up constructively and helpfully.
On the other hand, the relevant social rules are not terribly complicated here either and they're kind of learnable. Make an effort to understand (but don't demand) the current way before suggesting a change. Don't insult everybody by calling the current way stupid. Etc. And also Jane can't be an expert in every neurodivergent special need her reports might have.
I used to work with a truly brilliant programmer with no filter. Surely he was on the spectrum though I don't know that for a fact. He would insult everybody else's work. Honestly, his was that much better. I swallowed my pride and learned to work with him and I like to think I helped him with some social aspects. He was actually a very sweet guy and we benefitted from his brilliant work. That is how it should always work, but unfortunately it's not, and to be honest (as terrible as this is to admit) if he was not a true 1-in-1000 unicorn engineer I really don't think I would have cared to make the effort.
Just putting the bucket in that spot is likely more productive than having a company wide debate on it's placement. There might not be any logical rules for it but it doesn't matter since it's placement is largely inconsequential.