It's been three years for my father, and a month for my mother.
First: There is no one "right" way to grieve. Don't feel like there's something wrong with crying for a month.
It does get better with time. You reach a point where you're only crying some of the time. (I describe it as "I'm not bleeding, but it still hurts if anything bumps it".)
For me personally, I am a Christian. "We mourn, but not as those who have no hope." It changes the grief. It's still grief, but doesn't have as bitter an edge on it. Depending on where you're coming from, though, that option may not be open to you.
Sometimes I see someone who bears a strong resemblance to my father. When I do, I usually go up to them, explain that my father died, they look like him, and ask if I can have a hug. It's not him, and I always wind up crying, but it helps me.
> When I do, I usually go up to them, explain that my father died, they look like him, and ask if I can have a hug. It's not him, and I always wind up crying, but it helps me.
I don't think I've ever heard anything like this before. Have you ever gotten a bad reaction from someone? Or do they always oblige?
First: There is no one "right" way to grieve. Don't feel like there's something wrong with crying for a month.
It does get better with time. You reach a point where you're only crying some of the time. (I describe it as "I'm not bleeding, but it still hurts if anything bumps it".)
For me personally, I am a Christian. "We mourn, but not as those who have no hope." It changes the grief. It's still grief, but doesn't have as bitter an edge on it. Depending on where you're coming from, though, that option may not be open to you.
Sometimes I see someone who bears a strong resemblance to my father. When I do, I usually go up to them, explain that my father died, they look like him, and ask if I can have a hug. It's not him, and I always wind up crying, but it helps me.
Crying as I type this...
Praying for God's comfort for you.