I’m really sorry for your loss and what you’re going through. I lost my dad to a stroke, my wife to cancer and my mother and father in law (who I was very close to) in the space of two years. So I’ve been through it.
Everyone is different. Losses affect you in various ways, time can help but the wound is always there. Things will trigger a response to you that you wouldn’t expect. I found a post-it note with a few things my wife jotted down this morning, and it really sent me reeling for a bit after almost two years.
The key thing is that you’re allowed to feel. People may think your fellings are not appropriate… it’s too much / too little / etc. You may feel hesitant to express or otherwise say or be things because you’re worried about what people will think or react. Don’t do that.
I’d encourage you to ask for help and say things. You probably have people who want to be there for you in some way, but they don’t know how. Ask. Talk. You’re allowed to. If you need to go walk in the woods, do it. If you need to be around people, do it. You’ll find your way.
You may want to get professional help, but again, it’s up to you. Everyone eventually loses someone who really impacts us and as society we’re really bad at talking about it — but know you’re not alone.
Everyone is different. Losses affect you in various ways, time can help but the wound is always there. Things will trigger a response to you that you wouldn’t expect. I found a post-it note with a few things my wife jotted down this morning, and it really sent me reeling for a bit after almost two years.
The key thing is that you’re allowed to feel. People may think your fellings are not appropriate… it’s too much / too little / etc. You may feel hesitant to express or otherwise say or be things because you’re worried about what people will think or react. Don’t do that.
I’d encourage you to ask for help and say things. You probably have people who want to be there for you in some way, but they don’t know how. Ask. Talk. You’re allowed to. If you need to go walk in the woods, do it. If you need to be around people, do it. You’ll find your way.
You may want to get professional help, but again, it’s up to you. Everyone eventually loses someone who really impacts us and as society we’re really bad at talking about it — but know you’re not alone.