I want to highlight this blog article which in my opinion gives more actionable advice than all of the books listed (I read 6/8 of those) on the topic of having good social life
tldr; taking social initiative is like a cheat code.
The easiest way to make friends is to start organizing. I started applying this approach to my social life and I created two new friends groups from scratch.
1. Me and my brother started organizing lasertag matches. Basically anyone is invited. We even post open invitation to all our friends. Right now we have 20 people in our group chat and we do lasertags + beers once a month.
2. I created a group of friends from highschool - like a reunion shit but once every month. When I reached out to people everyone was hyped. I had only one of these meetings atm but everyone was happy and said they want more. We will be having a second one soon.
If I needed more friends that's what I would be focusing on. Organizing a cyclic get together of people. It's like a cheat code for having a lot of friends.
Right now I am a bit of time constrained but I look forward to organizing something different in the future.
Yeah, when I was younger, I had a kickball mailing list running on my mail server early 2000s. It only had kickball traffic, anytime someone wanted to play a game they would post, their phone number and time and ___location of a game and people would just show up.
Would organize larger games with more notice. Anyone who watched us for more than 15 seconds would be forced to play. If they had fun, we made them sign up.
https://www.neelnanda.io/blog/mini-blog-post-23-taking-socia...
tldr; taking social initiative is like a cheat code.
The easiest way to make friends is to start organizing. I started applying this approach to my social life and I created two new friends groups from scratch.
1. Me and my brother started organizing lasertag matches. Basically anyone is invited. We even post open invitation to all our friends. Right now we have 20 people in our group chat and we do lasertags + beers once a month.
2. I created a group of friends from highschool - like a reunion shit but once every month. When I reached out to people everyone was hyped. I had only one of these meetings atm but everyone was happy and said they want more. We will be having a second one soon.
If I needed more friends that's what I would be focusing on. Organizing a cyclic get together of people. It's like a cheat code for having a lot of friends.
Right now I am a bit of time constrained but I look forward to organizing something different in the future.